Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Treat YO Self...


"Treat Yo Self.  Don't Cheat Yo Self!!"
We live in a world where the phrase "Treat Yourself!" primarily conjures up ideas of shopping on Madison Avenue or maxing out your Amex on the hottest new trend item at Nastygal.com. And I won't even mention the sugar induced brain freeze thoughts of treating yourself to ice cream or extra helping sprinkles atop that Ben & Jerry's Chunky Monkey waffle cone. We all know those treats are delicious. 
Deliciously fabulous.
..but forever fleeting.  
I began contemplating the Treat YO Self term yesterday when a friend of mine said,
"You work too hard, you really should treat yourself more often."  
WHA?  Seriously?

It struck me as funny because I feel like I treat myself all the time. 
I'm pretty sure my entire life has been a somewhat selfish, self absorbed kinda treatment.
I think she meant a different type of nurturing.
It made me stop & think about the real treatment I'm after.
The true treatment that makes it all worth while.. 
( Hint: it has little to do with Chanel Boxes) 

TREAT YO Self!

Treat yourself to some positive thoughts about who you are & how far you've come.
Treat yourself to some beautiful memories from moments that melt your heart.
Treat yourself to a convo with some positive someone who would LOVE to hear from you.
Treat yourself to
*Lazy Days
*No Fretting Days
*Days Without Purpose &
*Days of Rest
Treat yourself to a long walk with sunshine on your shoulder..

Treat yourself to silliness, awkwardness &
Complete Unplanned Randomness

It's your play list

go ahead
play your favorite song
All
Day
Long




Hepburn Hugs & Ric Ocasek Dreams,
xo

Birdee Bow




Friday, May 24, 2013

Rejection Protection..

"When you're following your inner voice, doors tend to eventually open for you, even if they mostly slam at first. "  Kelly Cutrone

I've heard the saying
 "Rejection is God's Protection"
  Honestly, when I think back about all the things which almost worked out, didn't quite work out or FLAKED out on me at the last second? I often breathe a deep sigh of relief.  Oh, sure the heartbreak at the time was monumental, earth shattering.  The kind of break that lands you in your pj's for weeks with absolutely no clue where to turn or what to do next & ZERO feelings of hudspah to try it all again.

One thing I've learned about rejection is that it's freeing..

I often tell my friends,
 "I've been rejected by the best. By now I must be shatterproof & fearless!"
And it's true.
All the times I didn't try something I truly wanted to do?
It was because I was afraid of rejection.
Afraid of not measuring up
Afraid I wouldn't come out on top.

There is no TOP.
It's a myth.

There's only here & now.

These moments.

Just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder?
I believe rejection is in the doubt of the non believer..


And the only believer you need to succeed?

is

YOU


Hepburn Hugs & Ric Ocasek Dreams,

xo
Birdee Bow




Wednesday, May 8, 2013

You can Fake It. Just Shake It :)

"Let's Dance. Put on your Red Shoes &
Dance The Blues"
  David Bowie


The stars were super twinkly that night, a beautiful style distraction.   The kind of twinkling that catches the corner of your eye leaving you unsure of what you may have just seen, but far too beautiful to be a satellite or a plane.

As I made my way through the crowd, I began to realize my long circular skirt & vintage cardigan might have been an overdressed choice for this country gathering. Picnic blankets, girls in denim cutoffs & guys in ball caps were more the norm.  I didn't care.  I felt alive, happy in the summer warmth & ready for good music.  Just as the band struck a downbeat, an older gentleman appeared out of thin air and hit the dance floor.  Hit seems a rather lackluster word for the amount of oomph & fervor he possessed.   His was the type of enthusiasm one would usually associate with a 20 Something on a Cancun spring break weekend, but with much more grace & refinement. Dapper style in a brown bowler hat & suspenders, his gray beard & pale gray tweed pants seemed the type of match up that could only have been a magical mistake. Whisking up a girl from the front row,  I watched in amazement as he swung her around the dance floor.  Fluid movement with rapid fire accuracy.  Commanding the attention of everyone near the gazebo lights, their SMILES were louder than the entire band on stage.  I was mesmerized..
Just then, I felt a soft voice upon my shoulder,

 "You can't wear a fabulous skirt like that & not twirl it on the dance floor", a beautiful woman with long silver hair & the brightest green eyes ever continued "You gotta get out there!"  "Ah. Thank you No, but I do love watching those 2!  Look at 'em go!" I replied.  "I know, she went on, That's my husband, isn't he handsome? I usually wait to jump in later in the evening. We're both dancers from way back. Keeps us young!"  We continued  talking over the loud speakers & exchanged thoughts about the summer temperatures & the way we both loved vintage clothing & a myriad of girlish things, when suddenly it happened. Grabbing my hand from off my hip, "My wife says you wanna dance!"  " Ohhh. uh.no. y'know. I'm just here for the band..uh, please I'd rather not..uh
BOOM.
There I was on the dance floor with The Advanced Dancing Machine & although I knew there was no spotlight in sight?  I felt one shining straight down. 
On me. 
Highlighting all  my awkwardness.

Just as I went into full panic mode.
Just as I had decided that right now would be a perfect time to fake an asthma attack or a fainting spell,
A

 miracle happened.
I began to dance.
I began to dance a dance I had never danced before.
Following his lead, I twirled, quick stepped & literally flew through the air.
"You got this! " he kept saying as I shook my head in fear.
I felt like one of those 
dancing girls on GREASE who just randomly fall into the hand jive by accident. 
Y'know the ones who somehow
 (through the magic of cinema) know all the predetermined stops & starts? 
It wasn't long before my laughter engulfed my fears & I was (later as I learned)  dancing the jitterbug.
Don't ask me how.

A few dances later & a limbo line or two,  I made my way home.
Putting the skirt back onto the hanger, I brushed my fingers across it's shiny organza.
It seemed to shine more brightly, 
like it knew it had stolen the twinkle away from the stars that night.

Sometimes when I catch even a glimpse of that skirt, I swear it beckons to me..
to go out 
dance.


Hepburn Hugs & Ric Ocasek Dreams
xo

Birdee Bow